Have you ever been so convinced that something is not going to work out the way others think it will? I mean, with absolute certainty, you are fully convinced that your way is the only way. No amount of discussion will ever change your mind. You are rock-solid in your belief and if anyone thinks otherwise, they are dead wrong. Keep that in mind for a moment.
Three years ago, it was a Thursday night in late March. I had just settled down to go to sleep. Nancy was working overnight at the hospital. I was exhausted. The COVID pandemic was in its earliest stages. Everything had shut down - in person meetings, in person worship, plans for gatherings - and so many more events that are important to not only life in the church, but life period - were all shut down. It was the most difficult time for all of us. I was emotionally spent. I needed some rest.
My phone buzzed, telling me there was a text from someone. I wasn't totally asleep, so I fumbled for my glasses, slightly annoyed from being roused from a rest that I know I desperately needed. I looked at my phone. It was from my wife. She was telling me about an opportunity to get some kind of playmate for our cat, Ruby. Ruby and I didn't see eye to eye so I wasn't in favor of even keeping Ruby, let alone getting another cat for her. I wasn't ready to hear it. My response was "You are kidding right".
Turns out, she wasn't. You see, Nancy's family has a history of having animals: dogs, cats, parakeets, cows... yeah, that's right, cows. She loves animals. Talks to them like they can talk back to her. I know she wanted another pet. I just wasn't prepared for that conversation - not after midnight... not during the pandemic... I was convinced this was not a good idea and my avatar emoticon told her so. It was late - I was tired. I wasn't going to waver.... ...until this.
Even in an exhaustive state, a guy still has a heart. One look and that was it. It was over. Maisy became part of our family. She waits for me to come home now. Like a little jumping bean, she wants to be held all the time. And she begs for treats by standing on her hind legs, just hoping for some kind of dog treat that she can gnarl on. But make no mistake about it - she is still Nancy's dog. I'm just second fiddle... chopped liver... just a glorified benchwarmer... I take a back seat and I'm perfectly okay with that.
As it turns out, I am also perfectly okay with the realization that I was wrong. Really wrong. Maisy has been a really good pet for Nancy and as it turned out, for me too. It's a good lesson to be learned - for all of us. Our way might not be the only way. Take a moment to consider another perspective before settling on what you believe to be true. You won't regret it.
I know in my heart I don't.
Oh, one trade-off... Ruby the cat is someone else's cat now. I'm cool with that too!
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